How To: Avoid Any Drama

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Disclaimer first, everything I wrote below is based on personal experience and opinion.

Okay, it looks like I have to explain in advance what drama is as I mentioned on the title. Ever had a boss who gave excessive attention ? Ever had an affair with a co-worker ? Ever had a co-worker who always curious about your stuff ? Or maybe, ever had a quarrel with co-workers ?

I supposed you had experienced one or more form of that drama. Sometimes this kind of drama would disturb your career. So, let’s talk about how to avoid dramas like this.

No Feeling Attached

At work, we must related to a lot of people. Personal contact with these people certainly can not be avoided. Personal contact is included share personal things outside of work. It was not wrong at all. Sometimes such contact is necessary to know the character of a co-worker or boss as a preparation for our careers, because as we know the character also has an influence on the job. But there are things that should be confined, do not let yourself carried away too far. Stay professional. Give a reasonable reaction. With this attitude, our relationship with these people will be neutral. They will disinclined and of course act neutral by itself. Excessive sympathy and empathy can also affect our objectivity. This point is most suitable to avoid the co-worker who have big curiosity.

Keep Positive

Yup, this act also important to avoid any kind of drama. Attitude and positive mind can keep us in the comfort zone. We can avoid disputes with co-workers or superiors. Apparently, this attitude will give benefit for ourselves. We will always take the positive side of each incident. Disputes should be avoided but that does not mean we compromise too much. The key is self control to keep thinking positive and choose best alternative. Avoid being impulsive because you will definitely regret it.

Do not Give Any Chance

This point is suitable to avoid romance with a boss or co-workers. Do not ever give a chance for excessive contact or relationships outside the office. Maybe we think it does not matter at first if only occasionally. But trust me, one chance will followed by second chance, third and so on. The reason is they will thought that you are easily change the decision. Love affair with a boss or co-workers would put pressure on the job itself. Please help yourself, the target of a successful career already put a pressure, do not need to be coupled with others.

Anyone Treat Equally

Someone who works on the team has other point to consider. Especially if you become the head of the team. Our reaction to the people on the team are sometimes influenced by the member’s character. Some are clever to steal the attention, some are indifferent, or even some are always been negative. To avoid unwanted drama, show them that we perceive and treat them equally. Thus no matter what they do to us, they consciously believe that we will always have same reaction.

Don’t you feel the points I mentioned before too stiff ? I thought it also after I finished writing this post. But honestly, sometimes being ‘stiff’, in good way of course, would avoid us from any drama. So, this is just a reminder if only the drama come along away you career. Dealing with people is an art. We need to look at the situation and learn to adapt to the work environment but at the same time pursue a desired career path.

No matter what, always remember to have fun at work J

Good luck!